BE HAPPY NOT HURT
Being alone doesn't necessarily mean that you are lonely. But being with someone doesn't necessarily mean you're happy in that relationship.
DON'T BE IN FEAR BE FREE
Has anyone ever had the fear of being alone? I know I have. But does that mean you are never happy? No. We choose to be alone for several reasons. We like our peace and don't want to deal with drama and negativity. We can go out and enjoy ourselves. We can come home and enjoy a relaxing night without all the yelling and screaming from our significant other. Now, what about those who are in a relationship but are unhappy? Do you stay or walk away?
DON'T GET LOST IN LOVE
I know what it was like staying in a relationship that I wasn't happy in. For the time that we were together, there was no physical or sexual abuse. However, there was emotional abuse, infidelity, and a lack of appreciation. When we love someone, it is hard to let go. We want to be there to show that love and support. But what happens when we do our part but they are not doing theirs?
IT WENT WRONG BECAUSE IT NEVER GOT RIGHT
We ask ourselves: what happened? What went wrong? What do I have to do to make them happy? That's the problem. We're so in love we want to keep them happy but forget about ourselves. I'm guilty of that. I loved being in love with someone I thought loved me. However, while trying to keep the relationship alive, I was losing the worst person I could lose: myself. When I finally broke off the relationship, I was an emotional wreck and cried for days. I asked God why are you allowing me to be in relationships that aren't real and never seem to last?
SOOTHING THE SPIRIT
I was so confused and lost. I started drinking. I started giving up on life. I started feeling unloved by everyone. I felt hopeless. But as I was having these feelings, I started noticing a change. When I woke up, I was more calm. My mood changed. I was dressing up more and feeling beautiful. I put down the bottle and went back to my water. My skin cleared up. My mind was more relaxed. My spirit felt good. I was smiling more. I started coming back to God.
LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU LOVE ANYBODY ELSE
But why wasn't I feeling this when I was in a relationship? I wasn't feeling this before because I was not in love with myself. I kept looking for that love from somebody else when I needed to give it to myself. After being in an unhealthy and unhappy relationship and finally leaving, I started doing things for myself and felt damn good about it! Sometimes, you don't know how happy you can be by yourself until you realize that an unhappy relationship is NOT worth sacrificing your happiness. As much as you might hate being alone, trust me, sometimes it is needed because that's how you determine what is best for you. Make sure your mental and emotional state is a priority before you let someone else in your circle.
Written By Natalie Michelle Robinson
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Photo Credited To Antoni Shkraba